12 years ago we met, 10 years ago we became more than friends, and 8 years ago we tied the knot! In that time we’ve had children, moved more times than I’d like to count, tested our relationship on Ikea furniture, travelled, started a business, gone through good times and bad times (mostly when putting together that Ikea furniture…). And it’s true what they say– a marriage is like waves on the ocean, like the coming and going of the tide.
When Trevor and I were married, we included in the ceremony a verse by Khalil Gibran. And while this particular piece does get its fair share of critisism for its message, I’ve always believed it to be true.
“Love one another, but make not a bond of love;
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
Trevor– thank you for loving me freely. Thank you for giving me the things that I need in order to feel fulfilled, even when (especially when) they don’t match yours. Thank you for your quality time, but for also recognizing the need for our own time. And thank you for never putting me in your shadow, or standing in mine, but for always standing beside me as we grow together.
We spent our morning hiking and snapped a quick cellphone selfie at one of the lookouts we hit!